Thursday, 1 May 2014

Black and White thinking

Today our adult daughters felt it was time to continue the tradition of taking their younger teenage sister out to buy her first pair of "thong" underwear.  This "tradition" started about 6 years ago with our first daughter feeling her sisters underwear was not "cool enough".  This has now become a tradition with the girls of the family, when you are old enough your sisters take you to buy you new "cool" underwear.

After a day in town the girls come home after finding the perfect pair.  This may have been fine if the said teenager was not diagnosed with FASD.  Upon arriving home she feels it necessary to scare her older brothers by showing them her new "thong" and the best way for a modest girl to do this was to put the "thong" on over top of her jeans.  You would think that having seen so many "thongs" hanging out of many girls pants you would know how to wear one.  This was not the case and the "thong" is on backwards over the jeans, it must go this way because "the tag always goes in the back".  After an explanation of how to wear the underwear and a description of why the tag was put on the front (no room to sew a tag on that small piece of elastic at the back) she has it over top of her jeans in the correct direction and the scaring of her brothers ensues.

The next morning comes and it is time to wear the underwear for the first time.....just cannot get it through her head that the tag is in the front.....when you get dressed the tag always goes in the back.  It is time to remove the tag on the underwear as it should not be this complicated to put on your underwear on.

A lot of people struggle with having "black and white thinking"  meaning it is either black or white, right or wrong, the truth or a lie and there is no room for grey or a little white lie.  When you think of our society we have a lot of "grey areas" which makes it difficult for people with these challenges - people struggling with autism, FASD, etc.  For these individuals it's not always as easy as cutting out the tag in a pair of underwear to change the thinking.

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  1. We struggle with such black and white thinking too! We also have the problem of never knowing what might turn into an OCD ritual! Life is never boring that's for sure!